I have a confession to make…..
My husband and I don’t always get along. We fuss, fight, and bicker like two mules fighting over a turnip sometimes. But you know what?! That’s okay!
The Reality of Marriage
What I do know about the reality of our marriage is that he is perfect for me, and I am perfect for him. Marriage is sometimes messy. Marriage is sometimes hard. Marriage is work! But that’s okay, because I wouldn’t want to work on anything more in this lifetime. He’s the one who’s here when everyone else goes home. He’s the one who was with me when my health started to decline. He’s the one that will be with me when the kids are out of the house. So yes, marriage is worth the hard work! A lifelong best friend is worth the work.
The Distractions of Marriage
Stop trying to live up to others’ expectations of marriage and start living out YOUR marriage. Stop trying to have the marriage the world wants you to have and start having the marriage God wants you to have. Everyone’s marriage looks different! Stop comparing your marriage to everyone else’s marriage. Your marriage is unique, just like you. That is how God designed marriage and you!
I am no expert, but I have been there. Comparing can kill a marriage as fast as God created it. Chris and I’s marriage is not perfect and nor will it ever be. Once I started embracing that my marriage wasn’t and isn’t going to be perfect was when I started enjoying my marriage and Chris.
Chris and I are major dorks, I do understand this. You do not have to remind me. But here is the thing, when he and I got married, we were determined to have a best friend in the other. We were determined to have a lifelong friend in the other. We do not do many things apart. We don’t even go out of town on business without the other if we can help it. When we do go out of town on business, it is brutal. Some of you may call that ridiculous, and maybe it is, but when we got married, we wanted to be married the way God intended. I physically hurt sometimes when I am away from him and my kiddos.
Even though we fight as I mentioned above, I still yearn to be with him. Why? Because, God gave him to me as a gift, and I want to take care of that gift. I want to nurture our marriage and make it better day after day.
The world thinks that marriage is just something you do. The world thinks that marriage is easily disposed of. If the going gets tough, the tough gets going. The world doesn’t take marriage seriously, but God does! God always does, and He is willing to help you work on your marriage when and if it is needed.
Don’t be so quick to give up on your marriage. No marriage is perfect, but the union between a man and a woman is perfect in the eyes of our Creator. He wants you to succeed. He wants you to prosper. If He put you and your spouse together, He will see you through.
Marriage isn’t always fairytales and rainbows. But a good marriage is one that you can see fairytales and rainbows in even when life gets hard. Commit to love and love the commitment.
Don’t give up on your marriage! It’s worth the hard work! Who’s with me?
Colossians 3:14: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.”
